By Sonshine Wiley
Social Media gives us access to the family and friends we aren’t able to see all the time. It provides a way for us to access people within the networks of those friends and families as well. Sometimes we are completely blown away by the amazing connections we are able to make, and then there are the times we are totally not on board with a someone’s personality. This is the power of having a choice to friend and unfriend whomever is within your reach.
So, what happens when you are a 35 year old woman who’s new suggested friend happens to be your rapist from when you were an 8 year old little girl? This is not an uncommon occurrence, and many are faced with the decision to run and tell the world about this horrible person or (for fear that many will defend and victim blame) hide in the shadows afraid that this person still has the power.
How many times has someone who committed horrible acts been exonerated by the public because to those people this person is a “good person”? Our society no longer yields to moral compass and accountability, but to public opinion. However, in an effort to support victims, there are resources available to assist with instances such as this both on and off social media platforms.
The ability to block the person and all of their mutual connections is available as well as emotional support through therapy and online support groups. Seeking out these options may not bring a person to further accountability, but it does save the victim from suffering more than they already have. In addition, making sure the act is reported to the proper authorities so that justice is served can provide a solution.
Every voice that speaks in truth contributes to this solution. Breaking the silence could potentially keep this from happening to others.
By Sonshine Wiley
Rejection is the Silent Killer.
Rejection is scientifically proven to be linked to feelings of physical pain. Those of us who do not handle rejection well often tend to bury the feelings associated in order to avoid that pain. Although this is ineffective, it is a continued practice for many.
Creating a plan of action to combat those moments can literally save your life. Rejection is one of the leading causes of depression. Some are not able to recover from this, and end their lives. Instead of waiting until backed into a corner to start dealing with those feelings, seeking professional help for challenging times has become more prevalent. Many are also finding things that create an atmosphere of gratitude in their lives to support a lasting change. As we all know eventually tough times will come, however, combating negative self talk and increased self care seems to have improved the quality of life for many.
This is the Independence Day episode!! This episode is the first live installation of the Sonshine State with special guest Mark Smith! In this episode, we hear about the emotional experience from a male perspective.
With a live audience, various opinions are expressed, and it allowed for an even greater dialogue. Topics ranging from accountability and honesty to fear of judgment and removing stereotypes.
This episode had such wonderful dialogue, it was extended beyond the normal 25 min or less format.
This episode is full of conversation starters. Take a listen!
By Sonshine Wiley
The “Beef” between rap artists has been a longstanding tradition. From the days of Tupac vs Notorious BIG to today's rappers Drake and Pusha T. This beef is not just in male categories, but also now more prevalent in female categories as well.
Most recently there was a beef created between Nicki Minaj and Cardi B. While there are some who would rather fan the flames of the beef, many are asking why can’t we like or support them both?
Was there a secret quota created that states you have an allowance of one female rap artist? Yes, this question goes against the tradition within the industry that’s been going on for years. Isn’t ok to question things that are in place? Isn’t it ok to form your own thoughts, opinions, and change your own personal narrative?
There is an argument that states the beef sparks a creativity that is not often in place if the sense of competition is not created. Understandably so, however the competition can exist without the underlying division.
If the black community is to activate the powerful force that it is, we must exercise that power in all areas, including music.